What Not To Wear

Day 12 - Something you never get compliments on.


My fashion sense. I've always been more of a jeans and t-shirt person but once in while I wish I was more fashionista and less "where'd you park your tractor".

Why thank you!

Day 11 - Something people seem to compliment you the most on.


This is a tough one. I don't really get a lot of compliments or if I do I don't remember. But as I was thinking about this I wondered, why are we so quick to believe the bad things people say about us? Not only do we believe them we carry it for years, when a compliment is quickly dismissed. What makes it so difficult for a woman to receive a compliment? Tell a woman her outfit is great, and the usual answer: 'What, this old thing?' Tell her she looks well, and she'll respond: 'You mean I look fat, don't you.' Exclaim that you love her new haircut, and she'll accuse you of hating the old one.

No wonder men sometimes feel it's better to say nothing at all. Women, just say "thank you" and smile!

Secondly, I wondered why are we so quick to say the mean things and leave the compliments unspoken. A few years ago, pre-divorce when I was trying to be a better wife, I realized I never told him a lot of the good things I appreciated or thought. Sometimes I would look at him and think "that's my favorite shirt, he looks really good in that color" or "I really appreciate that he makes me breakfast every morning". But, I never said them out loud I just assumed he knew. When we were trying to "make things work" I decided I'm going to make sure I said these things out loud. And when he ticks me off and I want to speak my mind, I'm gonna think twice. Of course, it takes more than nice compliments to make a marriage work and I moved on, but it taught me a beautiful lesson. Don't hold in a nice compliment. You never know when it will be exactly what that person needs to hear. Even for a stranger but especially for those you love.

Luke 6:37

Day 10 - Someone you need to let go, or wish you didn’t know.


Let's call this one....Thorn, because that's what this person is. A big thorn in my side. I don't know if it's because I dislike confrontation so much or I'm just so angelic (your right it's the first one), but I just can't write this person off for good. Thorn has done some down right mean things and Thorn is such a gossip and back biter. Thorn causes drama where ever Thorn goes. Thorn complains about the most absurd things. Thorn is the type of person to say "I would never do that to someone" and 5 minutes later doing it. Thorn is such a freaking liar it literally almost kills me!! That being said I've spread my share of gossip and hurt feelings and I believe in forgiveness. No one is perfect. We all have things we need to apologize for. I guess I hope that if I'm forgiving as we've been instructed to do, that I'll always be forgiven for my wrongs.

A season for everything.

Day 9 → Someone you didn’t want to let go, but just drifted.


While I have several people I wish I still had contact with I can't really pick one person (yeah its a cop out). I believe people come into your life for a reason and sometimes only for a season. A lot of times the people that are in your life for a small period of time are the ones who make the biggest impact, so cherish that time spent with them.

I'm a survivor

Day 8 - Someone who made your life hell or treated you like...poo.


Once again no names because that's not how I roll. I am however going to borrow a few lines from Destiny's Child and let him know:

I'm wishin' you the best,
Pray that you are blessed,
Much success, no stress, and lots of happiness,
I'm not gonna blast you on the radio,
I'm not gonna lie on you or your family, yo,
I'm not gonna hate you in the magazine,
I'm not gonna compromise my Christianity,
You know I'm not gonna diss you on the Internet
Cause my momma taught me better than that!

Family...it's about time

Day 7 - Someone who has made your life worth living for.


I'm a lucky lady because I have several people who make my life worth living, but I'll just stick to the important 8.

It's the real thing

Day 6 - Something you hope you never have to do.


I hope I never have to officially give up drinking Coke. I know I've threatened every once in a while but what I really mean when I say "I'm giving up soda" is "Maybe I should cut back". There's just something so satisfying about washing down your In-N-Out animal style fries with a Classic Coca Cola that makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside...ok so maybe its the carbonation burning my esophagus but still, it hits the spot.